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Challenges parents face in the age of the internet: Finding the balance between online & offline

by | Feb 18, 2020 | Parents



There is no denying that the world we live in has become digitalised and parenting in this age is very different from the one we grew up in. I have read many blogs and books about the use and effects of screen time in a child’s life, with most focusing on the negatives and dangers that are linked with tech use. We can’t deny it, we see tech use everywhere, you see children as young as two years old in their pram holding on to a phone watching YouTube videos or playing games.


However, I’m not completely convinced that the answer to this difficult question is to completely cut out the use of technology and only expose children to it once they fully understand it’s use. The below aims to explore both sides to the argument that I have heard parents speak of, should we be allowing children access to the internet and if so, is there such thing as a balance?


The disadvantages:

  1. Limited knowledge

 One of the biggest disadvantages for parents is that they have grown up in an era that the use of the internet, social media or even smartphones did not exist. This causes some parents to not fully understand the dangers associated with the use of the internet. Even though parents have become more aware of the impact the internet of their children’s mental health, more still needs to be done.

  1. Screen Time

It’s very important to implement screen time on to your child’s devices to make sure it doesn’t have a negative effect on their wellbeing.  As children get older, they become more independent and it will be harder to control their phone usage but starting early and implementing screen time allows parents to manage the time young children spend online. This way it would not interfere with their school homework, after school activities, sleep time or even family time. Most tech companies are now focused on this, with most having this feature implemented in their devices or software.


  1. Bullying and cyberbullying

Bullying has been around as long as we have known, but with the growth of technology we now also have cyberbullying. Both types of bullying go hand in hand because a child might be bullied at school verbally, emotionally or physically and then the bullying continues online through social media. This can affect a child and cause depression, anxiety and in extreme cases suicide. If parents detect that their child is being bullied at school or online, they should take action as this allows the parents to work with the school to prevent any extreme events. The importance here is to ensure that you have visibility of your child’s use of the net and to have open conversations with them if you think something is not right.


The advantages:

  1. Learning online & access to resources

With children growing in the era of technology and internet, schools have implemented new ways to allow children to interact and also learn online. A lot of schools both primary and secondary use online websites where they set children homework. This allows the parents to have control over what the child is actually doing online and their screen time because they will be checking over the homework.


  1. Group inclusion

As children are growing up, they create friendships, being online allows those friendships to develop and for your child to be in a group where they feel secure enough to express their feelings and to share their passion with each other. It allows your child to learn how to socialise and how to communicate with people and this allows them to grow confidently.


  1. Self-branding

Children are more focused to learning how to be successful online, with the number of successful young youtubers increasing each year. If your child would like to be online and make money don’t brush off the idea rather sit down with them and discuss what they want to achieve and how you could help them achieve those goals. The good thing about being online and making content is that your child is not limited. A good example is the highest paid Youtuber is an 8-year-old, who records videos of himself unboxing toys and playing with them.


As mentioned, it is a difficult question to answer, finding balance is the most important factor in my opinion. The children of today will be having a career that do not currently exist, with most of them being in advanced technology. Controlled exposure is beneficial and will prepare them for a career in tech.  With technology advancing so much do you really blame a young child to have their own tablet, phone, or laptop?

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